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But Isn't it Normal to Have Body Image Issues When My Body is Changing?

Have you found yourself wondering if you'll ever get your old body back?

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Many would argue that body image issues in the peri-natal period are "normal" and that there is nothing else going on; but if there was truly nothing else going on, then a woman would be able to notice and accept the changes to her body instead of becoming concerned or pre-occupied with the changes. 

Pregnancy, birth, and the transition into motherhood are all-consuming experiences that impact you physically and emotionally. Our bodies can quickly become a target when other things in our lives are becoming overwhelming or when uncomfortable emotions are being stirred up - which is inevitable during pregnancy, post-partum, or when you are ttc or experiencing pregnancy loss.

It's definitely normal to go through a period of grieving when you or your body goes through any transition, but when you find yourself becoming obsessive or preoccupied with these changes, it is important to ask yourself why you are finding yourself focusing so much on your body image during this time. If you want to get to a place where you feel true acceptance of your body, you have to be willing to look inside and see what else is triggering these feelings of dissatisfaction in the first place.

What is going on beneath the surface?

Come to our next body image workshop to explore this topic further! www.theessenceofyou.ca/events

Jen is a counsellor and psychotherapist in Calgary, Alberta with over 7 years experience working with women with body image issues and eating disorders. Visit The Essence of You website or Contact Jen directly to find out about upcoming workshops.

 

 

New Year - Time to Discover You!

When the new year rolls around, many people are always saying "New Year, New You!" What about instead of finding a "new" you, give yourself the opportunity to really get to know and become yourself? Dedicate this year to discovering the you that is already here.

These last few days, I have continually seen this quote circulating in my Instagram and Facebook newsfeeds:

"What if you simply devoted this year to loving yourself more?"

I think this is a great idea. Instead of having resolutions for how to change or do things "better" or differently, what if we just focused on loving ourselves, accepting ourselves and discovering ourselves? Find the essence of you! My own journey with this process is where my motivation for my work comes from and keeps me going when I think I can't.

When you put energy into yourself, amazing things start to happen. Increased self-care and self-awareness inevitably leads to better mental health, physical health, and stronger relationships with everyone around you. As a mother it can be challenging to meet our own needs and take care of ourselves, but finding time to nurture ourselves is so important. We can't pour from an empty cup!

"Change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not." - Albert Bessler

Getting to know yourself creates a deeper awareness and understanding which leads to an ability to live your life more authentically. When you accept and embrace yourself as you are and let go of how you WANT things to be is ironically when change usually starts to happen.

In my opinion, nobody needs a NEW version of themselves, we all just need to tap into what's already there and let our inner selves shine through. You are enough!

Who's ready to make 2017 a year to become the year for YOU?

I am running a Motherhood Workshop on January 14th that is all about reclaiming your identity. For details on this and my other upcoming groups and workshops, click here. Individual Sessions also available.