“I Don’t Need Therapy, I Don’t Have Any Problems!”

WHO AM I, REALLY? I’LL BE HONEST…

What draws me to the deep work in supporting women to unearth their knowing and acceptance of their true authentic selves is my own journey of the same thing.

One of my assignments in university was to attend a counselling session and write about it.

“I don’t need therapy, I don’t have any problems!”

This was literally my first thought, which is hilarious considering I hid my choice to enrol in university as a 22 year old “mature aged student” because I was terrified that someone would convince me not to do it. I knew that this was the career I wanted since I was a teenager but delayed university based on other peoples opinions previously. I only told my then-boyfriend (now-husband) because I knew he’d support me but feared that everyone else would question me, or worse, criticize me or sway my opinion. This girl didn’t need therapy. 😂

After that first session, my awareness expanded, and I never stopped going after that. 13 years later, 4 therapists later, I’m still immersed in my own learning and unlearning. 

I have hid parts of myself out of fear of rejection and criticism throughout my life in various ways. 

My own journey with connecting to my authentic self is forever evolving. Just last week in my own inner-work through therapy, art & journalling I made huge breakthroughs. I was blown away at new discoveries I made about myself and how my inner child still influences me in my relationships with her edge of anxiety and perfectionism to avoid the unthinkable - Criticism. Blame. Shame. Rejection. 

This past week of self-reflection reinforced & expanded my awareness of just how important I am and just how imperative it is that I hold and nurture that anxious inner child of mine and put her above everything else. 

I am able to care for her; this vulnerable, scared part of myself, as I simultaneously care for my real-time children. In fact, when I hold space for her and prioritize her, it makes me a MUCH better mom. 

I share my own experiences very mindfully on this platform - it’s important for me to not project my “stuff” onto you. When I share my workshops, it’s not based on my own rights & wrongs but rather I consciously present the valuable information that I have learned through endless training and years and years of experience with my incredible clients. 

I am sharing to let it be known that I am on this journey too, I get support with mine, and I love supporting you on yours … no matter or similar or different you are to me. 

As Fritz Perls says … “You are you and I am I. And if by chance, we find each other, it’s beautiful. And if not, it cannot be helped…” 

Where are you at in your journey of being your true self - the essence of who you are?